Do men need advice when it comes to keeping their relationships healthy? Indeed they do. What is it that men who want long term, healthy relationships need to know? Sociologists give us some valuable insight.
Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women's actions. It's not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It's not really confusing if you think about it. Let's use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.
Listen to a woman tell you that the most important quality in a man is sensitivity, being understanding and a good listener. But then she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or she might say the the only important quality in a man is his sense of humor. But she only dates men with money.
Why do women say they want one thing in a man but actually go for just the opposite? The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together. And, therein lies the relationship advice for men.
On a subconscious level, women realize the part they play in the big picture of life. And that is to become mothers in order to propagate the species. Now having children might be the last thing on her conscious mind, but subconsciously when she evaluates a man, she's looking for a good father for her children. She is looking for a provider " someone she can rely upon to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us while a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated occasions throughout his adult life, a woman only has about 400 chances of producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies. A man who tells a woman he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a better chance of landing her. That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children. But having a good income is not enough. A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children. That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.
This sheds some light on why the engagement ring must be a large purchase. An engagement ring is a tangible display that her man can provide for the family.
Women are still programmed to think of strength as enhancing the ability to provide. A woman is hard wired, for instance, to choose an athlete over a computer geek. Today people usually make more money from their brain than their brawn, but her subconscious is telling something else
So, the biggest piece of relationship advice sociologists have for men is to figure out, after thousands of years of conditioning, what women really want. And then give it to her. - 15224
Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women's actions. It's not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It's not really confusing if you think about it. Let's use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.
Listen to a woman tell you that the most important quality in a man is sensitivity, being understanding and a good listener. But then she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or she might say the the only important quality in a man is his sense of humor. But she only dates men with money.
Why do women say they want one thing in a man but actually go for just the opposite? The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together. And, therein lies the relationship advice for men.
On a subconscious level, women realize the part they play in the big picture of life. And that is to become mothers in order to propagate the species. Now having children might be the last thing on her conscious mind, but subconsciously when she evaluates a man, she's looking for a good father for her children. She is looking for a provider " someone she can rely upon to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us while a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated occasions throughout his adult life, a woman only has about 400 chances of producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies. A man who tells a woman he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a better chance of landing her. That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children. But having a good income is not enough. A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children. That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.
This sheds some light on why the engagement ring must be a large purchase. An engagement ring is a tangible display that her man can provide for the family.
Women are still programmed to think of strength as enhancing the ability to provide. A woman is hard wired, for instance, to choose an athlete over a computer geek. Today people usually make more money from their brain than their brawn, but her subconscious is telling something else
So, the biggest piece of relationship advice sociologists have for men is to figure out, after thousands of years of conditioning, what women really want. And then give it to her. - 15224
About the Author:
Antonio MacGynn contributes to About the Family, a blog dedicated to family issues. He has learned that most broken relationships can be repaired, but can't be done without understanding the subconscious motivators that get couples together. Unfortunately, most people who want to repair their relationships instinctively do exactly the wrong thing. Avoid the wrong steps and Repair the Relationship.
